All Fathers Matter
Turn on your TV and put on what you may think is a “family show” and notice the portrayal of fathers in the media. They are usually made out to be useless, lazy, out of touch individuals who carry the least amount of wisdom in the household. In the mainstream media the fathers get no respect or no praise. Their contribution to the home and society is no longer valued. Feminism has brainwashed many millennials and younger, that fathers and men are altogether not important. We are told that women are just as capable of fulling the role of a father in home. So much so that the phrase: “I don’t need no man” has become a chorus for millions of young women. Once upon a time, there was nothing more taboo than to witness a single mother. It is always a tragedy when a child is raised in a home without both parents, no matter the circumstance. Yet, today, many women are now choosing to be single mothers. The number of single women going through IVF or artificial insemination in the UK has more than tripled in a decade, according to new figures (Amy Walker, BBC News, If you want to have a child, why wait for a man, 2024).
Psychologist have gone further and concluded that many of the issues of life are not linked to sin or individual responsibility, but rather attachment issues with their father. Of course, they can’t say father anymore because it points to biological a male, so recent articles have used the term ‘care giver who is seen to be a father figure’. So when an identifying transgender woman does it, the fathers are still to blame, poor dads! I am not arguing that all fathers are great or that there isn’t room for improvement. What I am saying is that fathers are important; the role of the fatherhood cannot be done by women because God has made men and women differently to fulfil different roles; and that overall fathers matter!
Fathers are important because fathers are protectors and providers in the home. A father right to this position in the home is through marriage. Wives are to submit to their husbands, not to their “baby daddy.” The word husband means master of the house, or the one who bounds the house together. He is there serve, lead, protect and provide for all in his home. He is responsible for all in his home. And all in his home, look to him for care and compassion. These obligations are intertwined with marriage and marital vows. God’s plan for marriage is to provide a place for children to be born and raised and for women and the children to be protected by an able man who has made a public commitment before man and God to always prioritise his family. The reason why fathers walk their daughters down the aisle is because they are transitioning the responsibility and care of their daughter to another man who is to be their husband. Statistics have shown that when men become fathers, they work harder, they leave work earlier and yet make on average more money per hour. Households without fathers are 4 times more likely to live below the poverty line. Children of fatherless households are 2 times more likely to drop out of school. Adolescents from fatherless households are more likely to commit crimes, have poor mental health and are two times as likely to commit suicide (Jason Wise, Earthweb, Fatherless Homes statistics 2025:risk and repercussions, 2025)
God has chosen to use the title of Father, to illustrate to us His devoted care, love and compassion towards us. Psalm 103:13 says, as a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him. Matthew 7:9-11 explains that if earthly fathers who are evil know how to provide for their children, then, “how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!” Why not call upon our Father who is in heaven and ask him for the gift that is above all gifts – eternal life. He is able to forgive you for your sins and adopt you to himself as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will (Ephesians 1:5). There are no flawless fathers. Yet we are called to honour our fathers regardless of their short comings. How much more honour and praise shall we give for our perfect Father in heaven who made all things and provided a way for us to freely receive eternal life.
